This week at Time Out for Mom, Leslie's asking for a "would you rather" question this week. What would I rather?
My sweet kids are growing up. My oldest son is now 16, so much a young man but not quite ready for independence. My daughter is less than a week away from becoming my 2nd teen, already taller than me. And my youngest son turned "double digits" just a few weeks ago. Where has the time gone?
In just 8 years ALL my kids will be adults, hopefully out into the world, living their lives as productive, content people. And I know the time will fly by...
I've begun to ponder what my life will be life then, without kids to raise, to clean up after, to focus my time and energy. Will I return to public school teaching? And, as part of the divorce decree, I will be required to move out of the home I always hoped to have. (Don't get me wrong! Being able to continue to "grow up" my kids here is a blessing...)
But would I rather continue to live in the woods? or move to the city?
I've always been a "country girl". I grew up on an island off the coast of Maine in a small fishing village. The nearest Walmart and McDonald's is 40 miles away. Even here, we're 15 minutes away from a grocery store chain. I'm surrounded with trees and lakes, not people and cars. I hear Peepers in the spring, sometimes loud enough that I have to close my windows to sleep. We've seen moose and a lynx walk down the road, foxes "cry" from the woods, and I can dry my wash outside on a line.
Recently, I have been able to experience "city life" again. (I once lived in Indianapolis.) Tom, my fiance, lives just on the outskirts of one of the biggest cities in Maine in a studio apartment. There, I hear sirens and honking and a train that rattles past not far from his place. But the grocery store, library, shopping, and even a park are walking distance away. No vehicle needed! There's restaurants and movies and a theater to see plays. And such a variety of people.
I'm feeling a change coming on. In 8 years, when my kids are out in the world, I think I might just join them, discovering new places, new people and new environments...
Where would you rather live?